Just the word “dating” gives many single people hives. Men and women search in earnest for their dream mate, soul-mate, or simply the “right person” – only to walk away with another story filled with humor or horror.

Someone once asked me, “Why has dating become such a dilemma?” Well, is the dilemma dating, or is the dilemma finding the person who is right for you? Are there just too many choices, not enough quality choices, or are we just too picky?

We all have stories to tell. Women who have dated for more than a few years know that some men remain in our memory banks indefinitely, even if we only went out with them a few times, or knew them only a few short hours.

My friend Joni, for example, can never forget Costco Guy. Joni and Costco Guy met at a party. He asked her if she wanted to meet him for lunch the following weekend. She said sure. He called Saturday morning and asked if Joni could meet him at his house. She said sure. The first problem Joni encountered was the traffic. It took her an hour and a half to get to his house.