Being single after 40 is a time to cherish and celebrate. By our 40’s, we’ve had plenty of time to figure out what we want in a partner. We have a better idea of what our negotiables and non-negotiables are. Hopefully, we’ve learned from out past mistakes and grown from our experiences. And we also have the freedom to explore our passions, hobbies, and desires at a time in our lives when we’re comfortable in our own skin.
Gone are the days of the stigma attached to being single over the “proper marrying age.” We can do as we please and live our lives as we wish.
Here are a few more reasons being single in your 40’s is actually pretty amazing:
When we were younger, in our 20’s and even 30’s, many of us hadn’t figured out what we wanted to do with our lives. We were focusing on career aspirations, trying to find the niche that fulfilled and energized us to get up every morning and face the new day.
This pursuit, though important, can put a lot of limitations on leisure time and the ability to try new hobbies, travel, and dating experiences. As a result, dating and other hobbies and experiences that can be incredibly enriching get put on the back burner or are squished into an already crazy schedule.
When we’re over 40, we’re often more settled into our careers and can give more of ourselves, our time, and our money to our personal passions. It’s often through these interests and hobbies that we meet potential partners who are of a similar age who have the same interests. We can date without stress or time constraints, and explore the things that make us happier, more fulfilled individuals. Ultimately, these types of choices lead us to be happier with ourselves, which makes it easier for us attract the right person.
Our culture has embraced the mature single person, especially because a large portion of the baby boomer generation is now in their 60s. Negative attitudes and stereotypes about being single after 40 have been forgotten. We can wear the clothes, hairstyles, and looks that we enjoy and make us feel good about ourselves. We can still feel sexy and phenomenal. As they say, “When you look good, you feel good,” which is pretty great.
Maturity brings the confidence we need to live our lives our own way. We don’t feel the need to compete with others, and can shelf the need to keep up with the Kardashians. Living our lives however we choose is a freedom that most of our parents didn’t have. We don’t have to fit into the “married with a house and two kids” photo, unless we want to. We have the courage to choose and seek out our own scenario that makes us happy.
When we stop worrying about what we don’t have and embrace all the things we do have, we can enjoy the freedom that comes with being 40 and single. Every new day is an opportunity to spread your wings and fly. Now that’s pretty damn amazing!
written by Tonia DeCosimo